The subject of “How to Attract Women” is incredibly over-done.
So many people have written, spoken, and vlogged about it that even I was asking myself, “Do I have anything new to say??”
But, of course, for those of you who are familiar with me - you know that I have a metric fuck ton of new shit to say about anything that I think about for long enough.
I approach this course with:
Compassion for men.
Compassion for the loneliness epidemic.
Compassion knowing what it’s like to be touch-starved.
Knowing what it’s like to be a “nice girl” who used to never get dates.
Knowing how I get thousands more propositions in my late 30s than I did in the entirety of my 20s (when I was prettier than I am now).
Knowing what it’s like to be autistic and starting out as socially “off.”
Having lots of female friends who all talk about what attracts them… and what puts them off.
Being a woman, myself, who is sometimes turned on… and sometimes turned off, depending on what’s happening.
A forever churning, overly analytical mind constantly chewing away at how to better observe and understand social situations.
Explanations of WHY these strategies work and not just “what” to do.
A ton of research.
Short, easy-to-read blurbs.
Short lessons that take only a minute or two to get through each.
Lots of pretty, colorful pictures.
A focus on long-term, permanent results, not just a few quick-fixes.
Here’s a quick overview of the chapters that are already planned and outlined for this course:
Introduction
Why Being Nice Isn’t Good Enough
The Product Isn’t You, the Product is the Experience of You
Reading Social Cues
Why You Don’t Want to Push
Active Listening
How to Hold an Engaging Conversation
8 Pillars of Perspective
Self-Exploration
Now Showing: You
Seeing Her
8 Points of Emotional Origin
Empathy for Beginners
Delightful Actions
Resolving Conflicts Before They Start
Conflict Resolution: Thinking Stage
Conflict Resolution: Communication Stage
Being a Partner
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In the course, chapters are divided into short lessons that take about 1-2 minutes to read each.
Contrary to my original plan, I’ll be focusing my energy on this one single course until it’s done, instead of dividing it between multiple courses.
I’ll be putting out new chapters on average of once every 2-3 days.
If you’d like to preview the content of one full chapter, you can listen to the podcast episode on the chapter: “Why Being Nice Isn’t Enough” here (you’ll want to make sure to turn the volume up):
If you’re confident in the course, you can get started now here:
If you’re still unsure, scroll down for a more detailed description of each planned and outlined chapter below.
The Introduction chapter explains the overall objectives of the course and what it will focus on.
Some of the objectives are:
To help men get into meaningful, fulfilling relationships where both individuals are happy and feel like their needs are met.
To help men build up their social skills.
To help men gain more confidence.
To help men have better, happier lives.
I’ll focus on getting you:
Meaningful relationships.
Healthy relationships.
The “Why Nice Isn’t Enough” chapter is the only chapter that’s completed as of this writing (August 10, 2025).
It’s all about why being nice is needed… but why that alone isn’t anywhere close to being enough to get you into a relationship.
We cover contrasting differences between various traits that can sometimes be confused for one another - and what separates them.
We dive into why those differences matter and how comprehending them will enhance your dating game and lead to happier connections.
The next chapter is called:
“The Product Isn’t You, the Product is the EXPERIENCE of You.”
This chapter draws heavily from marketing expertise, knowledge, and strategies.
Skilled marketers know that they’re never actually selling the product in question - they’re selling an experience.
This is true of all human nature.
People don’t “buy” products because the product is good. They “buy” the product because they want the experience that it provides - what it feels like.
Get your mind out of the gutter, we’re talking about what the emotions feel like. What the connection feels like.
Maybe other stuff, too.
Reading Social Cues is a not only a critical part of the dating game, it’s also a critical part of:
Making friends.
Impressing employers.
Getting along with co-workers.
Forging happier relationships with everyone.
…but here we’ll mostly focus on how it helps you score more dates.
This will be a heavily researched chapter because this is something I also need help with.
“Why You Don’t Want to Push” is a chapter that deals with the fact that, when you push too hard, you’re going to get shut down even more unequivocally.
It will focus on:
What feels “pushy” to women.
Why women reject “pushiness.”
Why pushing is an inefficient use of your time.
How to reframe rejection.
Why you should also reject people pushing your boundaries.
How to ease people into your ask without being pushy.
Active Listening is one of the most basic building blocks to improving and maximizing the potential of any relationship.
It’s not just about letting the sound vibrations from another person’s voice hit your ears - it’s about paying attention and letting them know you’re paying attention.
It’s about making them feel like they matter enough to have their feelings, events, and thoughts listened to.
It’s about making them feel heard.
It’s about interacting with the other person.
When you’re actively listening, you’re not just being talked at, you make yourself part of the world they’re describing by participating in their vision.
“How to Hold an Engaging Conversation” is a very, very long chapter filled with research, insights, experience, and life-changing revelation.
These strategies will help you hold your own in any conversation, no matter which way it twists and turns or who it’s with.
There are dozens, if not hundreds, of ways to have more engaging conversations. This chapter is outlined to dive into 13 of those unique and powerful strategies to turn your conversations into compelling epics of magnetism.
They will make people eager to hold your attention and keep you talking to them.
How?
There are 13 degrees of how, and each one is a powerhouse all by itself.
The 8 Pillars of Perspective are a unique feature of the courses featured on this website and that you won’t find anywhere else outside of the Life Enhancement Movement project.
They are eight methods for flipping the way you see the world, other people, and yourself inside out.
Once you’ve gone through all 8 pillars, you’ll never see the same person in the mirror again.
It will start ripping out all the old mold-infested drywall of your internal sense of self and repair it with fresh materials.
This course won’t go into deep enough detail about the 8 Pillars to completely tear out all your negative self-talk and destructive mental pollutants, but it will absolutely be a start - and there will be an in-depth course on it later.
“Self-Exploration” is another long chapter and this one is all about you.
This chapter is about knowing yourself.
It’s about asking yourself some questions you’ve already asked yourself before - and other questions that you’ve never thought to ask yourself before… let alone answer honestly.
It’s about who you are in different situations and the things that will matter the most to you when you’re heading into that final long sleep.
Who will you have wished you were in that moment?
…and how can you become that person.
If the last chapter was about knowing yourself, this chapter is about displaying yourself.
“Now Showing: You” is about how to make yourself seen.
It’s about how to have the truth about yourself understood.
All too often, we try to describe ourselves to other people in ways that are not only often inaccurate, but taken in ways that don’t line up with what we meant.
Who we really are isn’t revealed in the description we present to other people.
This chapter will dive into the things that really unveil our true selves - and how we can make that true self someone that we want to see reflected in the mirror and discovered in its entirety by the people who matter the most to us.
As you go through the various courses on this website, you’ll notice a pattern: first we see and validate ourselves, and then we see and validate others.
In the last two chapters, we explored you.
Now, in this chapter, “Seeing Her,” we’re going to talk about how to explore who she is, what her dreams are, what she wants, what she needs, what she fears, and who she wants to be.
Hell, by the end of this course, you’ll probably be so skilled that you’ll be able to help her see things about herself that she never understood before - and that will really make her feel connected to you.
This is another new thing you haven’t seen before.
“8 Points of Emotional Origin” is a toolkit for observing how your emotions arise and how everyone else’s emotions arise that isn’t used anywhere else.
The objective of it isn’t so much to be correct, but to provide an easy, step-by-step method to recognize how our emotions boil up in the ways that they do without judgement.
It’s a way of looking at yourself and however you’re feeling without judgement - no matter what it is.
…and it’s a way of looking at her moods and how she’s acting without seeing it as either an attack on you, or a character flaw on her part.
When you can see both yourself and her without criticism, you’ll be happier with who you are, and happier with the relationship that you have.
People can tell you that you need to be more empathetic all day long but like… how??
HOW can you just simply “be more empathetic?”
It’s a tough question to truly answer - but I did some research and then thought about it for literally hundreds of hours (I’m not joking or exaggerating).
The result is: “Empathy for Beginners.”
This is a step-by-step guide for manufacturing empathy where it didn’t exist before. It builds on tools from previous chapters to increase its psychological efficacy.
Being empathetic is a powerful tool for getting dates - you don’t want to miss this one.
In an earlier chapter, we talked about the difference between being convenient and being delightful.
While it’s easy to tell someone that it pays more to be delightful, that’s not exactly an easy thing to know how to be.
That’s why there’s this entire chapter on “Delightful Actions.”
“Resolving Conflicts Before They Start” is going to make your life so much easier.
Yes, conflicts and disagreements are completely normal in a healthy adult relationship… but that doesn’t mean you always have to get into them.
The parts that are healthy involve both individuals setting and maintaining their boundaries, being free to speak their minds, having their own lives and agendas, among many other things.
It’s these things that often give rise to conflict.
But what if… you could still have all those things… with fewer conflicts to begin with.
It all starts with how you treat each other and the smallest amounts of friction early on.
Before you even get to the talking part, HOW you think about the conflict beforehand in your own headspace will go miles towards determining the outcome of the resolution overall.
In this chapter, you’ll organize your reactions, where they’re coming from, and what you want to do with them.
You’ll also apply critical thinking to the situation using easy steps that most people gloss over - even when they’re being reasonable.
These additional steps will make it easier to talk about your dispute in a de-escalating way in the next step.
“Resolving Conflicts: Communication Stage” is largely about how to reduce the stress of the person you have the conflict with while you’re in the midst of your conversation about it.
The previous chapter will talk about de-stressing yourself before the conversation begins (as well as how to delicately delay the discussion when necessary).
But here, we’re going to talk about how to talk the other person down so that they have more mental space available to hear you, your concerns, your feelings, and your perspective in the most generous mindset possible.
Whereas conflict resolution may have been a source of anxiety for you before, after this chapter, you’ll begin to see it as a portal to better interactions.
This right here is the hardest part.
It requires the most.
It asks a lot.
But, “Being a Partner” is ultimately the pre-requisite to any long-lasting, happy, meaningful relationship that pushes out the dark.
When you can both truly be a partner to each other - not just in material or convenient ways, but in emotional and psychological ways, as well - that’s when you have something special.
That’s when you kill the loneliness.
If this sounds like what you want in your life, smash that button below so hard.
The discount codes are on the next page, and will get you the whole course FOR LIFE for as low as $2.10.
If you need it for free, don’t hesitate to reach out to me and I’ll give you a special, one-time free discount code just for you.
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You can also preview the audio for the first chapter by clicking on the Podcast button below.
I know what it’s like to be touch-starved and yearning for connection.
This course will provide everything I can to you so that you can arrive at a better place.
Love you guys,
Lilly ❣️
